Texto De Inglês

Relationships

The art o flirting

Successful flirting is both an art and a science. Its techniques can be used in walks of life.

From the moment a woman fist sat down on a bar stool, men have tried to find effective ways for introducing themselves to strangers. But for all concerned, their chat-up lines have created more stress than success. Women have been subjected to predictable, embarrassing and uninspiring attempts at wit and, for the male, it has been far worse:  tough mental challenge that usually results in rejection and often in humiliation.

So what is the best to attract a woman's interest? At long last, this question actually has a scientific answer. According to Peta Heskell, founder of London’s "Flirting Academy”, You should try something like this: "you know, it’s strange, this bar is full of strangers and you look around here and yet I realise that, in some way, we're all connected. And there are people with whom you feel a certain sense of connection. Don't you think so? "As you're saying this, Ms. Heskell suggests you subtly move your hand back and forth between you and lady in question.

California dreaming

Ms. Heskell explains that this chat-up line is an application of "Neuro-Linguistic Programming" (NLP), a branch of psychology, developed in the 1970s at the University of California by a linguistic, John Grinder, and a mathematician, Richard Bandler. Grinder and Bandler based their research on the use of the language by successful communicators. They made particular reference to a famous hypnotist, Milton Erickson, and even called a persuasive language pattern the "Milton Model”. For example, his phrase "As you listen to the sound of my voice, you will notice certain sensations in your body" is something of a non-descript truism, as everybody has certain sensations in their body, yet it is highly effective. Not only does it make the speaker calm and confident, it also influences the object for his/her attentions.

It's so easy

Another Californian, Ross Jeffries, has incorporated these techniques in his course on "Speedy Seduction”. His key rule is: "Whatever you can get a person to imagine is perceived by that person as being their own thought and therefore they do not resist it." In order to have power over someone, you must therefore they do not "capture and feed their imagination." Suggestive language is the main way to achieve this. Peta Heskell advises NLP novices to try the persuasion techniques outside the sphere of romance. She suggests you experiment with people that you aren't trying to seduce, people who are "easy”, like the elderly and the lonely. "Starting with them is a bit like learning to ski on the nursery slopes." And she is against the idea of using NLP purely for seduction: "If your life sucks, then you won't solve your problems by finding a relationship because, if you don't feel good, then you won't attract a good relationship." 

     
                                                                                     English Motion - Wilson Liberato 2010

Vocabulario:

Relationships - relações

Techniques - técnicas

Stool  - tamborete

Themselves - se

Effective - eficaz

Strangers - estranhos

Created - criado

Predictable - previsível

Embarrassing - embaraçoso

Attempts - tentativas

Rejection - rejeição

Answer - resposta

Should - deveria

Around - em torno de

Connected - conectado

Certain - certo

Between - entre

Psychology - psicologia

Language - linguagem

Called - chamado

Listen - ouvir

Everybody - todos

Confident - confiante

Incorporated - incorporado

Being - ser

Therefore - portanto

Achieve - alcançar

Against - contra

Nursery - berçário

Trying - tentando

Solve - resolver